Be The Eraser

 "If you can't be a pencil to write someone's happiness then try to be the eraser to remove their sadness"

We all try to 'keep that stiff upper lip!'

But it is not easy!

If we're finding it difficult, so is that person standing next to us, in the bus queue or waiting for the same train. Or --- even one of our closest friends or loved one. We would do anything we could to try to "cheer them up" wouldn't we.

We can't always 'write' a happy note into someone's day but we can try to 'remove' the pain, or, at the very least --- let him or her know that we are there and ready to help in any way we can.

Just a side thought --- don't forget to try to do this for yourself. When you are feeling sad (for what ever reason), try to cheer yourself up, forcing your mind onto a happier thought, or deliberately 'do something' that you know will make you feel better, (including eating a little chocolate).

I personally use music. If I start to feel sad, maybe something on TV 'triggered' a memory, I listen to music that I know will take my mind into a different and happier 'world' --- it is like a kind of medicine, but for me personally, it does really work.

Why not try it?

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

Helen Keller

Helen Keller was deaf and blind in the 1800s, yet she didn't let this stop her or pull her down in any way. Her life story is a real Inspiration for us today. Click on the link and be Inspired. (It's free)

No Enemy Outside Can Hurt You

 "When there is no enemy within, no enemy outside can hurt you"

Learn to LOVE Yourself!

When you love yourself from the inside, no one can 'get in' to hurt you, even from the outside!

I'm thinking about those who 'self-harm' --- please don't ignore them --- they are asking for help!

Something or someone in their past has hurt them so much that this seems the only way they can 'deal' with it. Thank goodness we have good therapy these days. The professionals are beginning to recognize that this is a very real problem, and (over time) we are learning how to handle it.

One 'treatment' that I use is to write in a journal, (I know, I've said this before), but it really does work as it lets out all my emotions --- in a controlled way. Some people can draw which is a real blessing. Writing  it out is "getting it out" and the relief leaves you / me feeling more in control of life.

So don't let that person from the past (who is probably outside your life now) ruin your day / life. Have Peace within and "no enemy outside can hurt you"!

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

Anne Frank

Anne was a good example for us because she didn't let those outside her 'world' ruin her personality or hope. Her life story is an Inspiration for us today. 

(click on the link to read her story, it's free) 

The Beast Is Sleeping

 "Don't mistake my kindness for weakness. The beast in me is sleeping."

We try all the time to stay 'a kind person', no matter what is thrown at us. However, kindness is not weakness. We can still be kind and keep our standards, protecting ourselves from that odd person (idiot, if I may say so) who tries to 'use' us for our kindness.

The Earth is kind to us

This planet gives us everything we need to live --- food, clothes, medicine, fun. But if we humans try to 'take advantage' and are greedy, the Earth soon let's us know who's boss!

We can be the same. Yes, show that kindness but if anyone tries to think we are weak --- let the beast lose (in a controlled way).

Most people want to be kind and show kindness. Don't let the few who don't, ruin our personalities.

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

what's in a day?

Notice Them

 "Notice the people who make an effort to stay in your life".

People come and go in our lives.

Here today because we work with them, but when we leave and go onto work somewhere else, we rarely keep in contact. Friends from school rarely stay in our lives because we all move on in life.

However, there is that one special friend who is always on the other end of the phone, and you have both made that effort to keep in contact. I've got a friend like that, we practically grew up in the same house, and although we both married and moved away, we kept each other's numbers. Recently, we accidently met in the high street and found that we live near each other, so it's been coffee every week since then.

Friends or family who make that extra effort to stay in our lives, are Worth our time and attention!

Because like us, they are Special!

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

The Teacher

It's Behind You!

 "Don't stumble over something that is already behind you."

(Seneca the Younger)

Our minds are amazing! They take in information of every kind and (usually) when we're not even thinking of something. 

But, the mind can also go back to something in the past which caused us great pain, either physical or mental, and these flash backs are hard to deal with. An accident where we lost someone we love, a type of abuse which 'scarred' us, or even just what someone carelessly said to us at school (a school bully!). When these memories come up into our minds, it is hard to push them away or to 'get rid of them'. Because they are in the mind, the memory cannot be erased so --- how do we deal with this?

If the memory is particularly 'bad' we must ask for help. The therapy that professionals can give us is "first class" and --- yes --- this therapy does save lives. For once, think about your own life and get that help!!!

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

You Are Perfect!

Speak Kindly

 "If speaking kindly to plants can help them grow, just imagine what speaking kindly to humans can do." 

Speaking kindly to others takes all of five minutes (if that) and can change that person's day.

We know what it's like --- we get up, get ready for work / to go out and all the while (possibly) in a lot of pain, worried about that electricity bill and you promised to look in on mum and do her some dinner. Your mind is constantly moving, going onto the next thing that you have to or want to do, and then you fall over and smash your knee. You feel like crying but someone comes up to you and asks: "Can I help you? Here, let me get you a cool drink, just sit quietly and I'll stay with you until you feel ready to go on. Can I phone anyone for you?"

How do you feel?

Life is worth living after all!

And this does happen, this is real! 

Waiting at the bus stop or for the train, and you see someone on their own, looking 'sad' or worried. A smile and a "Hello" can make all the difference for that person, maybe a little chat about how long you've been waiting, and that other person may soon be chatting away.

We would feel grateful for it, and so does that other person.

Let's make this world WORTH living in!

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

are you being served?

You Have Nothing To Prove To Anyone

 "Learn to be okay with people not knowing your side of the story. You have nothing to prove to anyone."

"But you haven't heard my side of the story yet!"

How many times have we said and thought this???

However, is it really that important that your side is put out??? Besides, you know the Truth and you really have nothing to prove to anyone. I'm not talking about in a Court of Law as that is a whole different situation, but in every day life, even something that goes back to childhood, your Peace of mind is far more Important than getting your side of the story over, and after many years --- what difference would it make anyway???

But --- if it does still 'niggle' you, write it down, all your thoughts and feelings --- let them out. Get yourself a little notebook which only you read and 'let it all out'. This is a good therapy, which many professionals advise (and I do this myself and the relief leaves me feeling much happier). You know it's there and you've proved to yourself that You Are Just As Important As Anyone Else!

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

Try To Be Always Positive