It's Behind You!

 "Don't stumble over something that is already behind you."

(Seneca the Younger)

Our minds are amazing! They take in information of every kind and (usually) when we're not even thinking of something. 

But, the mind can also go back to something in the past which caused us great pain, either physical or mental, and these flash backs are hard to deal with. An accident where we lost someone we love, a type of abuse which 'scarred' us, or even just what someone carelessly said to us at school (a school bully!). When these memories come up into our minds, it is hard to push them away or to 'get rid of them'. Because they are in the mind, the memory cannot be erased so --- how do we deal with this?

If the memory is particularly 'bad' we must ask for help. The therapy that professionals can give us is "first class" and --- yes --- this therapy does save lives. For once, think about your own life and get that help!!!

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

You Are Perfect!

Speak Kindly

 "If speaking kindly to plants can help them grow, just imagine what speaking kindly to humans can do." 

Speaking kindly to others takes all of five minutes (if that) and can change that person's day.

We know what it's like --- we get up, get ready for work / to go out and all the while (possibly) in a lot of pain, worried about that electricity bill and you promised to look in on mum and do her some dinner. Your mind is constantly moving, going onto the next thing that you have to or want to do, and then you fall over and smash your knee. You feel like crying but someone comes up to you and asks: "Can I help you? Here, let me get you a cool drink, just sit quietly and I'll stay with you until you feel ready to go on. Can I phone anyone for you?"

How do you feel?

Life is worth living after all!

And this does happen, this is real! 

Waiting at the bus stop or for the train, and you see someone on their own, looking 'sad' or worried. A smile and a "Hello" can make all the difference for that person, maybe a little chat about how long you've been waiting, and that other person may soon be chatting away.

We would feel grateful for it, and so does that other person.

Let's make this world WORTH living in!

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

are you being served?

You Have Nothing To Prove To Anyone

 "Learn to be okay with people not knowing your side of the story. You have nothing to prove to anyone."

"But you haven't heard my side of the story yet!"

How many times have we said and thought this???

However, is it really that important that your side is put out??? Besides, you know the Truth and you really have nothing to prove to anyone. I'm not talking about in a Court of Law as that is a whole different situation, but in every day life, even something that goes back to childhood, your Peace of mind is far more Important than getting your side of the story over, and after many years --- what difference would it make anyway???

But --- if it does still 'niggle' you, write it down, all your thoughts and feelings --- let them out. Get yourself a little notebook which only you read and 'let it all out'. This is a good therapy, which many professionals advise (and I do this myself and the relief leaves me feeling much happier). You know it's there and you've proved to yourself that You Are Just As Important As Anyone Else!

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

Try To Be Always Positive

You Deserve Peace!

 "Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace"

It is hard to forgive and forget, and sometimes "he / she just doesn't deserve to be forgiven" or "I just can't forgive them". We've all said this and with good reason, if only to protect ourselves.

BUT ---

We DESERVE the PEACE 

that comes from letting that person go, even if that does mean forgiving him / her.

I'm not going to quote Christian scripture (although I do personally respect Christianity), but I do know from research and experience that by forgiving and letting go of that bad "incident / person", we give ourselves the gift of PEACE ---

PEACE of Mind and PEACE of Soul and Spirit.

We Deserve PEACE !

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

You Can Do It!

"I'm recharging my batteries"

 "Sometimes --- I need to go off on my own. I'm not sad. I'm not angry. I'm recharging my batteries."

We sometimes just need that five minutes to give our minds that little bit of time to calm our souls and refresh our bodies --- ready for the next 12 hour shift (or whatever we're working at).

How can we possibly do this during the day? We are so busy and (sometimes) every single minute is taken up. However, like we take that tablet to stop the pain, so we must learn to give ourselves 5 minutes (more, if possible), every single day, to help us refresh and 'control' our minds. I even write it down in my diary --- "10am me-time for 10 minutes with a cuppa and biscuit --- the biscuit is optional. 

Can you give yourself 15 minutes in the evening, after dinner, to 'just calm down'? We're supposed to let our food go down anyway so why not use that time --- read a favourite book, watch a favourite programme or even play that game  you love on your phone. Even if you do this just once a week, the effects on your health will be so Positive, you'll want to do it every day.

LIVE AND LOVE LIFE!

Live and Love Life!

Different Doesn't Mean Wrong!

DIFFERENT DOESN'T MEAN WRONG! 

Every one of us deserves to live on this Earth!

Think of all the different species which share our planet with us --- dolphins, horses, birds, dogs, cats, spiders (etc, etc.) --- every single one of them is a different colour and lives in a different way but they all seem to live 'together'.

So can we!

No matter our gender, colour, way of living, religious life (and so much more), we can 'learn' from these other creatures and live together in a calming environment. Let's face it, when we sit on the bench, in a park and look around us, we 'hear' the quiet and 'see' the beauty of this planet Earth. I personally love to hear the birds in our garden, it is so calming to my mind.

What do you do to rest and rebuild your mind?

Live and Love Life!

what we can learn from animals

Rosa Lewis

 

Rosa Lewis

Who ?

Rosa Lewis was a woman lost in history but whose determination to 'better herself' is an Inspiration to us women today.

Born Rosa Ovenden into a very poor family in 1867, her father was an undertaker who had 9 children. Rosa started work at the very young age of 12 and went into domestic service which was better than going into the Workhouse. This little 'lady' cleaned and did menial chores in exchange for a bed to sleep in and decent meals every day.

Rosa learnt quickly and became a cook at 16 years old. Going from job to job, Rosa 'stepped up' in her chosen profession and was soon cooking for Royalty (Edward VII). The family insisted Rosa married and she did, marrying Excelsiar Lewis, but it did not last.

Having saved her money over the years, Rosa bought the Cavendish Hotel and it became one of the most fashionable addresses in London. She became known as "The Duchess of Jermyn Street" and started to dress accordingly. 

World War One started and the Hotel suffered financially. To combat this, after the Great War, Rosa would increase the prices for some guests, refusing to take a penny from the war veterans she put up. The Hotel became fashionable again, entertaining aristocrats such as the future Duke of Windsor.

World War Two came and the Hotel was nearly destroyed, Rosa nearly losing her life in a bomb attack. She seemed more worried about the vintage bottles of champagne at the time!

Rosas Lewis died in 1952, she was 85 years of age. She became known as "The Queen of Cooks".

This is a truly Inspiring story, a young woman who came from a very poor background who rose to serve and entertain Royalty. Her incredible work ethic is an example to us today.

If you would like to read a more indepth article, click on the links "Rosa Lewis" and enjoy being truly Inspired!

Rosa Lewis